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The Reasons Men Love Women

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They will always smell good even if its just shampoo.
The way their heads always find the right spot on our shoulder.
How cute they look when they sleep.
The ease in which they fit into our arms.
The way they kiss you and all of a sudden everything is right in the world.
How cute they are when they eat.
The way they take hours to get dressed, but in the end it makes it all worth while.
Because they are always warm even when it's minus 30 outside.
The way they look good no matter what they wear.
How cute they are when they argue.
The way her hand always finds yours.
The way they smile.
The way you feel when you see their name on the call ID after you just had a big fight.
The way she says "lets not fight anymore," even though you know that an hour later...
The way they kiss when you do something nice for them.
The way they kiss you when you say "I Love You."
Actually ... just the way they kiss you...
The way they fall into your arms when they cry.
Then the way they apologize for crying over something that silly.
The way they hit you and expect it to hurt.
Then the way apologize when it does hurt. (Even though we don't admit it)!
The way they say "I miss you."
The way you miss them.
The way their tears make you want to change the world so that it doesn't hurt her anymore...
The way they fish for compliments even though you both know that you think she's the most beautiful thing on this earth...

Transcendental Orgasmic Bliss

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Did you know that more than 80% of women in America are semi to non- orgasmic?

Did you know that women are naturally inclined to experience orgasmic bliss inside and out of the bedroom?

Did you know that orgasmic bliss is the mental state of awareness required for spiritual transcendence? To truly use the Law of Attraction we must become orgasmic. Women and men have special powers that we rarely use. The power of orgasm, high frequency Bliss, is the very force that allows us to attract more perfectly all that we desire in life.

Join us as Master Yao Morris, tantric master, shares jewels of instruction and keys to realizing the higher self through sexual Bliss. Yao takes us on a journey for men and women. He helps women understand the blockages to sexual pleasure and provides keys to unlock the deep joy that is possible through sex.

For the guys, Master Yao teaches a technique that allows men to bring a woman to full orgasm without touching her! Guys, you have to try this out, you’ll love the sense of satisfaction you feel when you are a conduit for women’s healing.

women expect men to be.......

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Be Jealous

Being creatures of the natural world, women expect men to be the protectors in a relationship. And when we don’t act like it, they get irritated and begin to look elsewhere. We have to show them how much we care, which means that we have to get territorial once in a while. We’re by no means suggesting violent outbursts and paranoid accusations, but rather, some gentle prodding that demonstrates that you don’t want to lose her to anyone. At the end of the day, if you don’t take an interest in your girl’s well-being, someone else will come along with an offer to do so.

Examples of things women love to hear:

“Where were you?” You don’t have to be suspicious, just inquire about her whereabouts from time to time.
“Who’s that guy?” Ask her this in a half-joke, half-serious tone and she will think it’s cute that you’re still evaluating the competition.

Ask questions

You can win major brownie points just by demonstrating an interest in her day-to-day affairs. Of course, this means paying attention to previous conversations and remembering key details that you can impress her with later.

Examples of things women love to hear:

“How was your day?” Asking her something as simple as this can be an effective and engaging start. Be careful, though: even this phrase has been known to spark hour-long conversations about things that may mean very little to you.
“How’s your brother doing? Better, I hope?” Show her your compassionate side and ask about her friends or family members whom she mentioned were ill or going through some problems. She will be impressed that you remembered and grateful for someone to speak to about it.

What she wants to hear ?

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Obviously this varies considerably from woman to woman, but overall she just wants your time and attention in a private environment. She wants you to tell her that she’s beautiful, that she is clever, that she is funny, that she is a wonderful partner, or whatever it is that you think and feel.

Surveys on pillow talk reveal that people like hearing their own name because it increases rapport and intimacy. Recall how in everyday life when someone says your name, you instantly feel more noticed, useful or special.

What she doesn’t want to hear

Whatever you do, don’t use this opportunity to say anything negative. Sharing the moment positively will always ensure that this time is special for you both. If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all. Bedtime is for loving, relaxing and sleeping -- rejuvenating from your everyday lives. It is not a time for arguing or picking faults in your mate.

Don’t use pillow talk time to bring up issues in your relationship or to discuss chores, work, family or friends; keep it as “us” time.

How to bring the G-Shot up to your woman

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If you want to discuss the G-Shot with your woman, the best way to bring it up is simply to mention the latest story in the news. Whether she’s heard of it or not, she’s bound to have a reaction to the topic. If she knows nothing about it, you can take a moment to fill her in. Ask her how she feels about the G-Shot. Does she think it’s too invasive? Too bizarre? Too expensive? Ask her if she’d ever consider such a thing -- but keep the tone light, you don’t want her to think you’re suggesting she needs the G-Shot, as that could make her feel like you’re saying that she’s lacking something sexually.

How to French kiss

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1. Place your lips against your lover’s, gently, keeping your eyes closed.

2. As you continue to kiss, gently open your lips and encourage your lover’s lips to open too using your tongue.

3. Softly insert your tongue into his/her mouth and gently caress their tongue with yours.

4. Be aware of the other person’s body language. Don’t continue if they tense up or move away.

5. Take your cue from them. Follow their rhythm and only deepen the kiss further if they indicate that they would like you to do so.Swallow any build up of saliva as you kiss. Nothing is worse than a slobbery kiss!

Kissing Tips

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Never underestimate the power of the kiss. A deep, passionate kiss can work wonders for blood flow. And deep doesn't have to mean deep tonguing, just deep and passionate. Save the tongue bath for the clitoris. Look deep into her eyes, run your fingers through her hair and down across her cheeks. Also don't just do this before sex. Do it any time, in the middle of the day, on the bus, when you're saying goodbye. If you only kiss passionately when you want sex, your partner may see kissing as a signal that you just want sex, not kissing.
Spend a lot of time exploring kissing - nipping at lips and tongue, cheeks, earlobes, neck, fingers, hands, toes, the whole body.

These are some top bedroom tips for men and women.

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# Share your deepest fantasies with each other.
# Kiss with your eyes open..
# Extend your foreplay time... considerably.
# Play truth or dare but keep your questions steered towards the topic at hand.
# Make love by only candlelight.
# Try ice...
# Spend $100 on lingerie.
# Take a bath or shower together.
# Write a sensual love story about you and your partner. Leave it for them to read.
# Use whipped cream...
# Stay the night at a hotel with a hot tub.
# Make it a point to touch every inch of your lover's body.
# Learn more about aphrodisiacs.
# Give your love a sensual massage.
# Buy a few love making technique books and read them together.
# Compliment your love on how they look and while making love.

"HOT ZONES" of womens breast

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Women's breasts are sensitive around the tops, bottoms, and sides rather than dead on the nipples. Breast stimulation spurs the release of oxytocin, a hormone linked to social bonding. So not only will you turn her on, but the sex will be more intense because she'll feel more connected.

Talking to Your Teens About Sex

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As I look into the faces of the real teens that come into my office, I frequently see the troubled eyes of those whose lives have been compromised because of the adverse consequences of risky sexual activity. There are many challenges involved in addressing teen sexuality - sex is a very sensitive topic and it is a topic which stirs up strong opinions.

Choices that are made without knowledge of potential consequences cannot be considered choices at all. In order to choose, one must know and understand the options. Despite attempts to provide extensive education to teens about sexuality, many adolescents are still woefully ignorant about the reality of STDs in the world today. Accordingly, it is important to consider approaches to dealing with the problem of teen sex.

Busted Young Couple

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Boy eat Condom like bubblegum when girl's parent arrived, Poor Guy busted and how he use his condom is very funny stuff watch it.

Pregnancy Scare

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if you're not ready for fatherhood, wear a condom or get her on birth control. Withdrawal is not an effective method of preventing pregnancy; in fact, it's not a preventative method at all. Sperm isn't just present when you ejaculate, it is also found in your pre-ejaculatory fluid. So, if she missed her period, there's a very large chance that she's pregnant. Take a test and see a doctor to know for sure.

Love inside Swimming Pool

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While water sex isn’t dangerous per se, there are a variety of risk factors and problems to consider before taking the plunge.

Pool sex increases the risk of infection for both men and women because penetration can force bacteria or chemicals into the vagina. This can also cause temporary dryness.
The water will wash away any natural or applied lubricants, resulting in pain and irritation.
Any oil-based products (tanning oil, soap) might cause the latex condom to break.

Any rumors of the water “damaging” a woman’s internal organs are complete hogwash. Simply be aware of the possible risks and if you should decide to follow through, do so with caution.

She has all the right moves

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A lot of people say that bodies can't lie. Nature has programmed humans with a complex set of non-verbal flirting signals that just flow freely when people are interested in someone. These range from the widening of the iris when looking at the object of desire to more overt displays such as smiling or touching.

Here are a few body-language cues to watch out for:

She points in your direction with her leg, foot or shoulders.
She leans toward you while talking.
She plays with or tosses her hair.
She fidgets with a piece of jewelry (like an earring) or strokes the stem of her glass.
She keeps her eyes locked on you while she talks or drinks.
She mirrors your body movements (for example, if you put your hand on the table, she quickly does the same).
She smiling when you check her out.

If you become aware of a cluster of these signals, you can almost be sure that she's giving you the green light for romance.

Best & Worst Pickup Lines

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"I was wondering if you have a moment to spare for me to hit on you?"
This one is relatively original and seems innocent enough for her to take notice, without feeling threatened by you. You'll also effectively send the message that you're interested in her, but are more interested in making her smile.

"What's a sexy woman like you doing in a dirty mind like mine?"
A fairly underused line, this one conveys that you find her hot, without sounding offensive. Show her you can be a bad boy and see if she likes your direct approach with the ladies.
"Do you work for UPS? I could have sworn I saw you checking out my package."
This one is fairly blunt (no pun intended), but it's the perfect one to use when you see a woman giving you the eye and, well, checking out your package. Since she may feel a bit uneasy, you should take the opportunity and strike up a conversation while you have the upper hand.
"Who's your friend?"
This one is risky, but it will shatter any pretense she might have about your actions by shifting the focus on her friend. This will intrigue her, to say the least, as she will wish to know "hey, how come not me?"

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Bedroom Olympics may be key to fitness and weight loss.

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According to McCloskey and a growing body of research, we can all learn something from the wanton women of Wisteria Lane on ABC's hit comedy Desperate Housewives who bed-hop in and out of their marriages and all have rather exceptional figures.

"It begins with thinking sexy thoughts and making sex a priority," she says of her sex diet. "I recommend having sex three to five times per week, which can be accomplished by doubling up on the weekends," McCloskey says. On average, sex burns 150 to 250 calories per half hour. "Since it's free and so much fun, I've found making love is the ultimate exercise machine."

More than just sex, McCloskey also suggests toning exercises including the "Elvis Pelvis" to help readers and their partners think sexy. To do this move, stand naked facing your partner and press your pelvises together for balance. Raise your arms to the ceiling and lean back while maintaining pelvic contact. Hold for three seconds, repeat five times.

No doubt about it, "sex is good exercise," says Laura Berman, PhD, LCSW, a clinical assistant professor of obstetrics-gynecology and psychiatry at the Feinberg School of Medicine of Northwestern University in Chicago, and director of the Berman Center. "It gets your heart rate up even if you are not having extremely acrobatic sex," she tells WebMD.

Ingrown Armpit Hair

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I have a really ugly ingrown hair in my armpit that totally hurts. How can I get rid of it?

Attacking it with your tweezers is likely to create or worsen an infection. If it's pus-filled, put a warm compress on it to help drain the fluid. Then wash with a disinfectant cleanser, apply an antibacterial ointment like Polysporin and wear a bandage until it heals, suggests Flor A. Mayoral, a dermatologist in Miami. If the bump won't budge after three days of treatment, make an appointment with your dermatologist to have it removed. If you're persistently plagued by ingrowns, ask your doctor to prescribe Vaniqa, a hair-thinning cream that'll help thwart future ingrown hairs.

Does your left hand know what your right hand is doing?

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Do you always use the same one hand to masturbate? Most guys do. If you’re among them, start with the simple tip of switching hands. It can feel strange at first, the rhythm might be off, it’s almost like sex with someone new for the first time. Enjoy the newness, and see if a new hand can teach an old hand some tricks.

Kissing tips : Pretend she's sleeping

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Kissing a woman during an intense lovemaking session is different than kissing her for the first time. Your approach during that first kiss should be as though she's sleeping and you don't want to frighten her.

Your lips should touch hers softly and slowly. And you should gently awaken her sensual side; not force it out of her like an alarm clock scaring her out of bed.

Never ask a woman for her permission to kiss

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Never ask a woman for her permission to kiss her. Despite what you might think, women, in general, like it when their man takes charge, especially during a passionate moment. Asking for her permission will make you seem timid and unsure; not sweet and sensitive. So, be a man and kiss her.

Of course, before you do so, you must be sure that she wants you to. Check her body language: if her body is facing, leaning toward, or touching yours, and she is smiling, biting her lip, or playing with her hair, chances are that she's interested in you. So, pick your moment and go for it, boy.

Pick your moment

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You have to know when the moment is right. Like if the conversation stops, your eyes meet and neither of you seems to be able to look away, that is the perfect moment to kiss her. So, you should take the opportunity to do so.

If she is trying to get something out of her eye, or is talking about something that she feels really strongly about, don't kiss her and think that you are being spontaneous. She'll probably wonder what possessed you to do so at such an awkward moment. After all, bad timing is not something that you want to be remembered for.

Can your breasts fail his sexual fantasy ?

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It is also highly unrealistic on your part to get the idea that two people could possibly satisfy all of each other's sexual fantasies. Many sexual fantasies aren't physically or emotionally safe, or aren't things both will earnestly want to do. In a sexual partnership, both partners will often be uninterested in, or unwilling or unable to make their partner's fantasies realities. I'm sure your boyfriend can't morph into whatever musician you had plastered all over your locker to fulfill your fantasy, or grow five tongues. As well, we can safely say that most people aren't likely to have mutually beneficial sex lives when there's nothing but, or a lot of, parroting from porn, especially women, since so much of what is shown in porn as massively enjoyable for actresses is often offensive to, dismissive of, or dreadfully boring for real, live women who aren't being paid to pretend something is rocking their world that isn't anything close.

If you two want to explores some of your sexual fantasies together, it should be a given that you're only engaging in that with fantasy that really is about both of you, just as you are. And too, being unable to satisfy every fantasy partners both have does not mean your sex life is somehow lesser than it would be otherwise. A sexual partnership doesn't trump or have to include all of a person's solo sex life and sexuality: it's about finding where there is shared common ground, not about trying to be everything and anything to each other. That's neither realistic nor particularly healthy.

So, it's his job to manage his disappointment with this sort of thing, not yours. It's also his job, if he's a good partner, to be sure that when he is disappointed, he's making clear that that's about him, not you, and comforting you if a situation like this leaves you feeling low.

Remember that while we can certainly enjoy our own breasts in many ways, the reason they are ultimately here isn't for appearance or for sex: they're here for feeding babies. Even if you don't ever have yours used for that purpose, it's a good thing to remember to keep things in perspective. Basing our body image on our sexual use or appeal doesn't tend to result in positive body image. Getting hung up on what size your breasts are really has little or nothing to do with women or with you, because the only reason any woman (including lesbian women) has to care about what size her breasts are -- beyond being sure our blouses fit properly -- is due to the way men frame what breasts are for. And again, just like with that sexual fantasy, that really, truly, has nothing at all to do with you, and everything to do with them. Your breasts as they are express you, as you are, and what should make them great is that they're yours, and a part of you as a unique, whole person: if they looked different, they'd be someone else's breasts, part of someone else's unique, whole person.

HOW TO HANDLE THESE HOT CHICKS

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Fingers

It goes without saying that clean hands and neat fingernails are key if you plan on going exploring, but what you might not realize is that diving in and honing in on her clitoris to start with might not be your best plan of attack. Your fingers are nimble: use them to your advantage. Stroke her thighs on your way and caress the areas on either side of her clitoris, including her labia, before gently making the first contact. A lot of women may find direct pressure uncomfortable, so try aiming just below or just above her clitoris and making small circular movements. Because the clitoris actually extends well into her entire pelvic region, rest assured that her enjoyment will only be enhanced by full manual coverage.

Be sure not to get too rough with her sensitive areas before you get to know what she likes and are clear on your understanding of the clitoris. A light touch will be more successful on most women, and those who need a little more are probably going to get frustrated with your restraint and beg for a harder touch. Sounds like a win-win situation to us.

How to talk to our children about sex

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Knowing how to talk to our children about sex is often complicated by the fact that few of us spend time considering our own sexual values. Sexual values are the beliefs, priorities, prejudices, thoughts, and feelings we have about sex, sexuality, and gender.

There are at least two important reasons to clarify your own sexual values.

Doing so can help us act more consistently in our own lives. Because we don't always ask ourselves tough sexual questions, we sometimes act in ways that contradict how feel, because we haven't taken the time to clarify our own sexual values.
An important way to make sure we are not passing along the sexual values we hold that we might not like (prejudices, old beliefs that we wish we could change) is to clarify how we feel personally from what we hope for our children. Clarifying this for yourself can stop you from passing along old patterns to your kids.

Keep in mind that this isn't a simple thing to do, and it may take a long time as you will likely uncover thoughts and feelings you weren't aware of. Also, your sexual values change over time; way you feel when you are 24 may be different when you are 40. But taking time to think about how you feel about a wide range of issues related to sexuality will go a long way in helping you answer your child's questions.

Triggered by external stimuli

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People vary considerably in their ability to fantasize and in their enjoyment of this behavior. Fantasies may supplant reality for some or may serve as a poor substitute of sexual reality for others. Fantasies are often triggered by external stimuli, such as an attractive stranger or an erotic picture, movie, or story.

Researchers have varying views on gender differences in fantasizing. Some argue that males are more prone to fantasize while others assert that fantasy is more common among women. Linda Wolfe studied a sample of 15,000 women ages 18-34, and less than three percent said they never fantasize.

Male Sexual Fantasies
In Western societies, males more often use sexually explicit material as a part of fantasy,

whereas females are more likely to rely upon romance stories. Females are more likely to prefer erotica with a "softer," more imaginative side rather than the "harder," more explicit forms preferred by many males.

The male fantasy world relies heavily upon novel experiences filled with culturally-defined beautiful women who are always sexually available and free. Pornographic magazines such as Playboy and Penthouse, as well as a wide array of so-called harder publications (because they depict explicit sex acts), attempt to capitalize upon such fantasies.

Female Sexual Fantasies
Women often base their fantasies upon previous sexual experiences and tend to emphasize romance and intimacy. The onset of the women's liberation movement has created a renaissance in erotic fiction aimed at women by women writers and film makers.

If your girl is struggling with your fantasies,

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fantasy-sharing tips

Make them sexy! She doesn’t want to hear about how you fantasize about the girl at the petrol station sucking you off while you get your gas. She doesn’t want to hear about how you masturbate and think about burying your face between the legs of the girl at the supermarket checkout. Not appropriate! Unless you have a super-liberal girl who likes that kind of thing, keep it real. And keep it in context. The point of the exercise is to share your fantasies for mutual pleasure, not just for your pleasure. If you don’t think she will think it’s as great as you do, save it for your solo performances. If you’re not sure, hint at it and see what she says.

Why she may not understand

If your girl is struggling with your fantasies, it is likely that she probably doesn’t realize:

Fantasies are just that -- fantasies. Often they are far better left undone, and in reality most of them are left undone.
Couples who share fantasies together last far longer and are far happier than couples who don’t.
Women who are sexually adventurous (read: not promiscuous) are deemed far sexier by EVERYONE, than those who are too insecure and "won’t go there."
Men who are sexually satisfied at home are far less likely to stray.

Cautions

Always check that what you are doing is OK with both of you -- something that seemed OK half an hour in (i.e. leaping into bed with her and her best friend) can quickly change into a disaster. You know how women are often hard to read, and your questions after their comfort falters are met with a tight-lipped, "Yes, I’m fine!”? -- take the hint. You know when she isn’t OK, despite her protests to the contrary. She may not want to ruin your fun so help her out if you can see she isn’t enjoying herself as much as you.

Best male pleasure positions

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Cowgirl

It’s no surprise that this classic male pleasure position has stood the test of time; maximum penetration for both partners allows for some of the best sex imaginable. It makes our list for one simple reason: She does all the work. You’re certainly welcome to help her along, but most of the physical work is carried out by her. This means you can lie back and enjoy the view as she bobs and jiggles her way (and yours) to orgasm. The cowgirl also provides maximum penetration, which equals maximum stimulation for you.

If she’s especially self-conscious about her body, try suggesting the reverse cowgirl instead: It’s the same idea, but facing the opposite direction. This position will feel just as good while alleviating any concerns she might have about feeling overexposed.

Around the bend

Deep thrusting is a primal sexual urge experienced by most men. Unfortunately, many traditional positions prevent thrusting to the hilt, which can leave a little something to be desired when it comes to sex. This male pleasure position, however, in which you bend her over the nearest piece of furniture, will satisfy that urge from the moment of penetration. With her legs spaced and her rump in the air, you’ll be able to thrust deeply without having to worry about injuring her during the act.

If she complains about the lack of intimacy, you can resolve this by simply leaning forward until your chest is touching her back; this will make her feel more like you’re having a shared experience, and less like she’s only there for your own pleasure.

Women love sex WHEN........

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Women love sex. In fact, some women think about it just as often, if not more, then their male counterparts. They fantasize constantly and at great length (with you being the object of their desire, of course). These hot little fantasies can cover a broad spectrum of kink, but almost always
involve one of the five most common sex positions women enjoy. This is due to a number of reasons, the most significant being that they create a perfect balance between level of difficulty and maximum pleasure. In other words, these sex positions women enjoy result in loads of pleasure for the minimal level of effort required to pull them off. That’s not to say that women don’t love your faves as well; they’re definitely into sexual acrobatics every now and then -- but when we’re getting down and dirty, certain sex positions tend to get women more wet than others.

Sexual position women enjoy

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Stand at erection

This sexual position women enjoy is pretty self-evident in the title: Your woman is going to sit on a surface that stands level with your waist, and then you’re going to penetrate her as deeply as you possibly can. The further her legs are spread apart the better, and you can maximize this by drawing her legs around your waist. This will place her vagina directly against your groin, and will make deep thrusting incredibly easy for you, thereby increasing her odds of having a G-spot orgasm. Where can you put this sexual position women enjoy to good use? Try the kitchen counter, the bathroom counter, the washing machine, the piano, the hood of your car -- get as naughty as you like.

Some men come relatively quickly in this position, thanks to it’s deep-thrusting potential. Don’t be afraid to slow down and take a break to get yourself back under control. Use that time to stimulate her clitoris and bring her closer to the edge. When you start thrusting again, she’ll be just as ready as you are.

The Contraceptive Argument

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"Modern contraceptives have removed the fear of pregnancy." Don't kid yourself. There's always a chance of pregnancy. No contraceptive is 100% foolproof. Even many marital pregnancies are unintended. A lot of married couples have had "little surprises."

Even with all the modern contraceptives, there are one million teenage pregnancies in the U.S. each year.{5} And if one chooses abortion as a "solution," there can still be emotional scarring and, for many people, a guilt burden. Incidentally an estimated 55 million people in the U.S.--about one in five--have a sexually transmitted disease (STD). Each year there are twelve million new STD infections in the U.S.{6}--an average of over 20 new cases every minute.

About 6,000 people around the globe become infected with HIV daily. {7} In the U.S., AIDS is the leading killer of people ages 25 to 44, according to the Centers for Disease Control.{8} So-called "safe sex" is not really safe at all. Condoms can slip, break and leak.{9} Johns Hopkins University reports research on HIV transmission from infected men to uninfected women in Brazil. The study took pains to exclude women at high risk of contracting HIV from sources other than their own infected sex partners. Of women who said their partners always used condoms during vaginal intercourse, 23% became HIV-positive.{10}

The Hedonistic Argument: "But it feels so good when I do it--and afterward, too!" The question is, "How long after?" What feels good for a few seconds may leave you feeling miserable for years. Self-fulfillment is hard to come by without self-respect. Also, don't forget the other person. Sometimes one partner's pleasure is another partner's misery. How would you like being used as nothing more than someone else's pleasure machine?

Poor communication, poor sex

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Premarital sex can also inhibit communication. Each might wonder, "How do I compare with my lover's other partners? Does s/he tell them how I perform in bed?" Or perhaps they think, "Should I be totally honest and vulnerable and share my heart with this person when I don't know if they'll be around tomorrow? Can I entrust all of me to them if I don't have all of them for me? There will be part of me emotionally that I'll hold back." Each becomes less open; communication dwindles. And poor communication makes for poor sex. Bad feelings result, communication deteriorates and so does the relationship. In short, premarital sex can put people at a disadvantage because it can lessen their chances to experience maximum oneness and pleasure.

One young woman at Arizona State University expressed it like this: "I understand what you're saying about unity or oneness. I've had several premarital sexual experiences with different men. After each one, I've felt like I've left a part of myself with that person emotionally. What you're saying is that it makes sense for a person to save themself so they can give themself completely to their spouse."

Men think contact about 39 times a day

2008-04-21T05:09:00.000-07:00

Most men think about sex about 39 times a day. Most women don't. No wonder when your husband asks you if you want to "go upstairs" you might reply "What for?" Preparing for sex builds excitment. Giving it some thought ahead of time can help make the experience more enjoyable. Think of it as getting ready for a party.

When throwing a party, we women go to great lengths. We remember the tiniest details. Not only do we sweep, scrub and decorate the house, we make sure we look and feel fabulous ourselves. Do we take the same care preparing for the party in our bedroom?

Since sex is one of life's keenest pleasures, a little extra care in planning will heighten our anticipation and enhance our experience. Some couples add ambiance with candles and sparking nectars. Others have fun with scavenger hunts leading up to the bedroom. Experiment with ways to spice things up. Be daring, while ensuring both of you still enjoy yourselves.

CAN WOMEN PLAY ROLE OF GOOD AND BAD GIRL AT SAME TIME ?

2008-04-19T22:51:00.000-07:00

Being a "Bad" Girl
Women who follow all the rules in daily life may dream of letting the bad girl out to play. Maybe you strip for a roomful of men or seduce a man you've just met for casual sex. You're aggressive, and you go after who and what you want with no apologies!It's you and the woman of your dreams. Whether Angelina Jolie is your idea of a hot babe or you'd rather make someone up, fantasizing about lesbian sex is especially appealing for women who've never actually experienced it. Imagine what her female body feels like (so different from your partner's) and how you'll stimulate each other.Everything from an orgy to a threesome falls into this category. Maybe you're watching a group of other people have sex. What about having a threesome with two guys? Two girls? A guy and a girl? You kiss one person but your hands are on another. Anything goes!
Many women dream of taking charge in their favorite sexual fantasies. You could be a dominatrix leading a man back to your hideout and planning to make him your sex slave. You'll tie him up until he promises to be submissive, and then you'll tell him when, where, and how to touch you.
Every girl wants to be good in front of others . But she has hidden desire to enjoy the role of bad girl too.

SAME ACTION DIFFERENT FANTASIES

2008-04-19T22:27:00.000-07:00

Women's fantasies unfolded at a slower pace than men's, with more time spent on imagining caressing and nongenital touching than on sexual acts themselves.

Men's fantasies, the researchers found, were more impersonal and sexually graphic, with a focus on sexual images and explicit acts. Men were also more likely to imagine a variety of sexual partners, including a wide array that they desired but had never had a relationship with.

In his study, Dr. Symons referred to the universe portrayed in men's fantasies as "pornotopia," in which "sex is sheer lust and physical gratification, devoid of encumbering relationships, emotional elaboration, complicated plot lines, flirtation, courtship and extended foreplay, where all the women are easily aroused and willing."

The differences between the sexual fantasies of men and women seem to run deep in the workings of the male and female minds, according to recent research that uses techniques from cognitive science to find out how the mind takes in and stores information. These methods allow researchers to avoid the pitfalls of information based on recall. Guilt, shyness or grandiosity can skew people's reports about their fantasy lives, as can the fact that most subjects of such studies are volunteers rather than random samples.

In one such technique, called a lexical decision task, a string of letters flashes on a computer screen and volunteer subjects decide whether the letters are a nonsensical combination or instead spell a word. "Women are slower than men at recognizing explicitly sexual words, but faster at recognizing romantic words, like affection," said Dr. James Geer, a psychologist at Louisiana State University at Baton Rouge. The difference seems to reflect which words are more important to members of each sex.

Likewise, when men and women see or read the same erotic narrative, they notice and retain different elements. Dr. Geer had volunteers listen to an erotic story that had romantic lines like, "They looked deeply into one another's eyes, silently and still," as well as more explicit ones like, "She clutched his back and wrapped her legs around him." When later asked which sentences in a list had appeared in the story, the women were, again, more accurate and faster in recognizing the romantic lines, while the men were quicker to recognize the more sexual ones.

Guys can always find time in bed. Why not women?

2008-04-19T20:36:00.000-07:00

Men do not always budget time for sex, either; they may say that, but research shows that they don't. Fatigue is a common reason that both men and women opt out of sex. Many people who deal with fatigue instead try to have sex in the morning when they may be less tired, if they tend to get more tired in the afternoon or evening. This may be a good solution for some men and their partners, too
Clearly some women and men do say "I'm too tired" when they mean "I don't want to", "I'm too stressed", "I have other things on my mind", or "I'm annoyed with you". What it means probably depends on the person. Often it is a way of getting out of sex without a confrontation -- she could just be mad that you came home late and didn't call or didn't empty the dishwasher.

But the take-home message from this study should be that women (and likely men) are not getting enough sleep, bottom line, and that there are ways men and women, as partners, can improve this. Sleep has a very important effect -- including having enough energy for sex as well as sexual performance, meaning orgasms for women and men, and erections for men.

How to play with clitoris

2008-04-19T19:48:00.000-07:00

Sexual stimulation is largely a cerebral activity for women; turning her on requires attention to her brain, not just her body. Even if you and your woman have yet to venture into talking dirty to each other, rest assured that whispering in her ear about what you plan on doing to her, or how turned on you are, can be enough to get her wanting more. The more aroused you can get her before the clothes come off, the easier your next job will be and this is key to understanding the clitoris.
It goes without saying that clean hands and neat fingernails are key if you plan on going exploring, but what you might not realize is that diving in and honing in on her clitoris to start with might not be your best plan of attack. Your fingers are nimble: use them to your advantage. Stroke her thighs on your way and caress the areas on either side of her clitoris, including her labia, before gently making the first contact. A lot of women may find direct pressure uncomfortable, so try aiming just below or just above her clitoris and making small circular movements. Because the clitoris actually extends well into her entire pelvic region, rest assured that her enjoyment will only be enhanced by full manual coverage.

Just a note on pressure: Be sure not to get too rough with her sensitive areas before you get to know what she likes and are clear on your understanding of the clitoris. A light touch will be more successful on most women, and those who need a little more are probably going to get frustrated with your restraint and beg for a harder touch. Sounds like a win-win situation to us.
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Regular vaginal training

2008-04-19T19:18:00.000-07:00

It has many different names in different cultures and countries. In India it is called the pompoir. The Toaist call it "Holding Firm". The Arabic word for it is the Kabbazah (to clasp). In the Far East it is known as the Singapore Kiss.

They all refer to a woman developing strength and control of her vaginal muscles. Having strong vaginal and pelvic floor muscles has many benefits. Regular exercise (daily) of the PC muscle and surrounding pelvic muscles increases blood flow and nerve connections. This leads to not only improved sexual health it also expands the level of sexual enjoyment for both the woman and her male partner.

Regular vaginal training increases a woman's orgasm frequency, intensity and variety. For most women orgasm is centered in the clitoris. But with proper exercise not only does her clitoral orgasm improve; she develops the ability to experience vaginal orgasms and ejaculating orgasms.

Women who consistently exercise and practice expand not only their own orgasmic abilities; they can also greatly increase the pleasure of their male partner. Strength and control of the vaginal muscles allow her to squeeze and hold an inserted penis of any size. For women with strong and healthy vaginal muscles, male penis size really doesn't matter.

Some may think that exercising the vaginal muscles are only for women who have given birth or have incontinence concerns. This is not true at all. In many cultures developing vaginal strength and control is important pre-wife training: 'She must close and constrict the vagina until it holds the penis...to act as the hand of the Gopala girl who milks the cow. If she does this, her husband will value her above all women, nor would he exchange her for the most beautiful queen in the Three Worlds.

In cultures where vaginal training is encouraged the women learn to firmly grip the penis in their vagina then contract the muscles to provide a milking sensation. Men, who are fortunate enough to have such a woman, say the sensation of penile milking with a strong vagina is the ultimate sexual experience-and they prefer it over oral stimulation.

In addition to improving clitoral orgasm experiences, pelvic exercise increases the likelihood for vaginal, multiple and whole-body orgasms.

should we exeperience sex In a famous place or landmark

2008-04-19T09:02:00.000-07:00

You're standing in front of or in a place you've been desperate to go to your whole life. Regardless of whether it's a hotel in Vegas, a balcony with a view of the Statue of Liberty, a palace or Uncle Fred's back porch, there's enormous emotional significance attached to the moment. Having sex in, near or looking at a longed-for destination or landmark can turn an amazing experience into an out-of-this-world one. You're still not truly convinced you're there, so everything seems surreal and in slow motion. And even if the sex wasn't technically that great, it gets stored in the "sex experiences never to be forgotten" category because you're fulfilling a lifelong fantasy.
It sounds silly, but sometimes even watching a video or looking at photos can nudge naughty memories. Help it along by talking dirty to each other, describing what you did and how it felt at the time. Build on this to create a fantasy, adding things you wish you had done. Then plan a trip to another special place, focusing on what sort of sex you'll have there.

GOOD GIRLS DON'T DO NAUGHTY THINGS?

2008-04-19T08:39:00.000-07:00

The bedroom is a place where a couple can let go. But men usually remain reserved, waiting for women to open themselves up. Don't fall into this cycle -- it takes away from your experience.
It's also unfair, however, to expect your partner to be completely open: Women fear that they will be judged if they reveal what they think or fantasize about. Call it crazy, but many women can't help but hear their mothers' voices echoing: "GOOD GIRLS DON'T DO NAUGHTY THINGS."

Create an atmosphere

If it's romantic love you want to make, set the atmosphere so that it reflects romance. The bedroom has to feel sensual and inviting. If you want your partner to feel a certain mood, the music can set it. During sex, music can maintain the mood, create an atmosphere, and set a rhythm you can follow. Obviously, heavy metal is not adequate; it'll only spoil the mood and turn her off.

Once you've got soft music playing, fill the room with candles. Scented candles add considerable feel and charm to a romantic night. Certain fragrances are like an aphrodisiac for women, so choose scents correctly. If you find that your partner is not completely relaxed, a good bottle of wine or cocktail may put her at ease.

Dress her up

Another simple effective tip is to buy the outfit your partner will be wearing. Women like when their boyfriends or husbands buy them outfits and sexy lingerie. Since her man chose it especially for her, a woman can't help but feel sexier in it. Many men still fear women's lingerie boutiques, but with online shopping nowadays, men don't have to worry. Find an online store, preview the outfit, buy it, and wait for UPS delivery. The only thing you have to do is gift wrap it.

Kiss her

Nothing excites a woman more than a long, sensual kiss. It is seductive and intimate. Proper kissing involves using the right amount of pressure and movement. Kissing can be used anywhere, anytime -- even before you reach the bedroom. If you really want to get your woman in the right mood, kiss her face. Start with little pecks on her eyes, cheeks, chin, nose, and slowly outline her lips with the tip of your tongue. Once you get to her mouth don't dive in NFL-style. Slowly rest your lips on hers, putting pressure then pulling back, gently sucking her bottom lip. This will entice her and set the mood for later events.

Tempt her

Once the mood is set, don't fall into the "same old, same old" trap, and always try new experiments. Perhaps a toy or adult erotica will do the trick. Even if all you do is watch videotapes of other couples having sex, a woman will sometimes want to reenact the scene in the film.

Even if she doesn't explicitly say it, you can judge her level of arousal by her breathing. Short breathing means that she is excited. Softly whispering how you feel to her can also increase sexual tension. Simply describe everything you are feeling, omitting the Shakespeare sonnets. This is the perfect moment to ask about her fantasies: Ask her an open-ended question, and be supportive of whatever answer she gives or she'll never open up again.

Being Attractive to Men

2008-04-18T21:44:00.000-07:00

Tips how to being attractive to men.
Wear clothes that make you feel sexy. There's no need to follow the latest trends, creating a style that's unique to you is way more fun and striking. Even if nobody sees them, it's a great idea to wear sexy undies, you will feel naughty from the inside out and that will radiate and make you smile all day long!

* Grooming is essential. You don't need to look like Miss South Africa, just be the best you you can be! Make sure your hair is healthy and you don't have dandruff or split ends, apply body lotion at least once a day to keep your skin soft and smooth, get rid of unwanted hair regularly...

* Check the baggage - see the "topics" list for more on that.

At this point you may ask yourself why you have to do so much just to please a man - well, this is not about pleasing a man - it's about making yourself feel good from the inside and that way you will become a happier person who attracts happy people to yourself.

Also, this is a blog about being pleasing to men in order to receive the good things that come from relationships with men. See, unless you love yourself, you are not open to being loved and unless you completely love men, they will also be unable to give you all the love you want.

Secret language of manhood

2008-04-18T21:40:00.000-07:00

When you become a real man -- an independent, strong man who is on his own path -- you’ll begin to communicate differently: You’ll move differently, you’ll hold yourself differently, you’ll respond to situations differently, and you’ll use different words. It’s easy to spot guys who don’t get it or are trying to fake it, but it’s just as easy to spot the guys who do get it. Just like guitar players know whether someone is a great musician or an amateur within the first few notes, women know if you’re a real man in a matter of seconds. This is why it’s so important to work on yourself, your self-image and your “Inner Game” until you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you’re a real man. When you do, you’ll attract women fast and naturally.

Popular fantasy - women have

2008-04-18T21:35:00.000-07:00

By far, one of the most popular fantasies women have is getting to be the man for one night... literally. They would like to act and dress up like a man -- straight down to the genitals. That's right, I'm referring to a strap-on penis.

One woman actually had the opportunity to fulfill her fantasy and took full advantage of her boyfriend's willingness. "It was absolutely incredible to be able to penetrate a man and feel the empowerment usually associated with being the aggressor."

"There's something about having a man in a vulnerable position that is an incredible turn-on." Carol admitted. "The idea of knowing that we're in the position that is usually assumed by men is probably the biggest aphrodisiac of all."
Although a rape sex fantasy sounds somewhat unthinkable, that's exactly what most women call it. They want to play the innocent, naive, unknowing little girl who gets taken advantage of by the devious, predator-like man.

Forcibly pushing her against the wall and. "...Pinning my arms above my head with one hand while the other hand has made its way under my skirt and is fondling my vagina," received nods of approval by all the women in the room. Andrea went even further expecting the man to, "Rip off my clothes, force open my legs, penetrate me, and concurrently smear my lipstick all over my face with his forceful kiss."